If you're going to continue dating:
- Don’t date anyone who has a girlfriend.
- Don’t spread yourself thin and do multiple dating (multi-tasking by dating several people).
- Don’t date a guy who is dating several people.
- If he isn’t expressing lots of interest and being distant, cut it off (the dating that is). By expression of interest, he should be calling regularly, not being aloof, not only communicating via the occasional text or email. He is not ambiguous.
- Don’t date just for the sake of it. If you only like him a little, say no to the request for a date. None of us are hard up, don’t act like it.
- If you date, keep yourself on lockdown. I would multiply your usual time to have sex for the first time by a minimum of three and stick to it. If you’ve been having sex on week 1, wait till at least week 3 etc. Having sex with a guy puts us in the justifying zone – that funny little place we go to when we have sex with someone and then justify our continuation of the relationship despite the very obvious flaws. Kissing good, other foreplay baaaad! Kissing only people! Also try a Sex Break.
- We all have baggage but look out for a guy that does seem to have drama in the shape of an ex, childs mother, recently broken up etc. If he appears to have issues that are unresolved, step back. Let someone else who doesn’t have a track record of unavailable men deal with him!
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