What's Happening

The book is progressing and whilst I'm not putting new posts on this blog, there's still plenty happening on its sister sites.

Over at Baggage Reclaim...
The No Contact Rule
When He's Bad in Bed
Women Who Don't Leave
When Your Ex Starts Dating First
So You're Ready to Live Together
Getting on The Path to Self Love
Does Emotionally Unavailable Equal He's Not That Into You?
Real Life: I married a Serial Cheater
The 2007 A-Z of Men
Saying I Love You First

Also check out my personal blog Tired of Men and other things that drive a twenty-something round the twist, plus I talk about babies and baby products now at When a Womans Up The Duff and Bambino Goodies.

Comments

[Jay C.M. (not in NYC)]

I see you link to the blog "Moxie in the City". Unless she changes someday, I would be careful about recommending that blog. Moxie can be pretty abusive of her posters and pretty judgemental and is not apologetic about that.

I am (was) Jay C.M. on Moxie's blog. I've learned you aren't allowed to disagree nor "call" Moxie on her own bad behavior when she's abusing others or being hypocritical. On Moxie's article
http://moxieblog.typepad.com/moxieblog/2007/06/titty_titty_fin.html I tried to make a post (see it below)...Moxie didn't like it, erased it, now I'm banned (no warning, no notification). I've never been profane, insulted anyone, and think I've always written reasonable things.

Apparently Moxie is allowed to be abusive towards her post-ers and violate the principles she requires of others, but you are not allowed to "call" her on that behavior.

Even though Moxie benefits from the members of her online community (since it's one of her attractions that people can write in & get advice from other singles), but she wants the freedom to attack/abuse/insult them, belittle them, silence dissenting viewpoints, silence criticism, treat them peremptorily and unfairly, and present a sanitized version of herself. Heh, and I noticed later that same day she threatened to ban Mike for disagreeing with her. Interesting little false world she's building for herself & profiting off of.

Here's the disallowed post (all in response to Moxie's repeated attacks on the poster called Cricket...and I did try to discuss this in email with Moxie but she was just condescending and hypocritical):

Wow, just read Moxie's anger and attacks.

>Oh My God. SHUT. UP.

This seems inappropriate & unfair, and sure to keep some people from ever posting. Of course, your blog, do what you like, but this won't lead to open discussions. Are post-ers allowed to act like this (tell each other to shut up, call each other slut, swear at each other, and accuse each other of blatant lying)?

You accused several of us of beating a dead horse...even if we weren't repeating arguments. Here you are beating your own dead horse, repeatedly saying the story is bullshit, accusing Cricket of an agenda, and saying she's mentally fucked-up. Is anyone else even on that horse, is anyone else saying Cricket's fucked-up & lying to further some agenda of hers?

WTF?!? And if you're tired of the discussion, why were you stirring it up?

>She wanted people on a blog (and maybe her husband who apparently might be reading) to think she was some sought after piece of ass.

I don't think so. And reading her story didn't make me think "wow, she must be hot", it made me think "here's someone giving their take on their sexual play approach".

>if she was straightforward and it was just a one time thign then... ...she'd tell them that blow jobs weren't an option.

Is a woman responsible for whatever expectations are in a guy's head and it's her job to know whatever his are and make sure she volunteers info about them in advance?